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Kade Flach, LMFT


Healing the Traumatized Self

Depth-oriented psychotherapy cultivates one’s capacity to know, reflect on, and be with oneself. It often leads to long-lasting improvements in relationships and a deepened understanding of one’s inner world. Our work together will help you to recover your inherent sense of safety, trust, and belonging in the world around you – both in moments of solitude and connection with others. These changes can ultimately restore your capacity to live a rich and fulfilling life.

Kathleen "Kade" Flach, MS, LMFT


It takes a great deal of courage to reach out to another person, even when a part of you knows you need support.

Deciding to see a therapist is one of the most difficult but important decisions you’ll make. Finding the right therapist for you can feel daunting – especially when you’ve reached a point where you're desperate for relief. In meeting with a therapist for the first time, you might wonder if it’s possible for someone to really get you or if opening up to another person is worth the risk. I work particularly well with persons who have difficulty connecting with others or feel somehow set apart from those around them.

All are welcome in my practice, regardless of how strange, different, or "other" they may feel.


We come to know and understand ourselves in the context of relationships. In the absence of authentic connections with others, we can be left feeling lost – disconnected not only from those around us, but also from ourselves. When close relationships are fraught with conflict or end badly, they have a negative impact on the ways we relate to ourselves and other people. Being hurt by persons who are known and trusted can be especially damaging to our sense of self. Some persons may come to see themselves as defective, unlovable, or even broken. One can end up feeling completely stuck.

This is where therapy comes in.

Our work together can help you to gain insight into the ways you've learned to protect yourself from painful or intolerable thoughts and emotions. These protective parts of us are adaptive in nature and have enabled you to survive experiences in your past that would have otherwise been unbearable. Although they kept you safe at some point in time, they may also no longer serve you – paradoxically preventing you from being the person you are and living the life you want for yourself.


The therapeutic relationship offers a unique and meaningful opportunity for self-discovery and healing.

In isolation, we often remain too close to the problem to find a way out. Only through meaningful relationships with others can we restore connection to our authentic selves. Working with a therapist who will be with you in your pain can enable you to make contact with the wounded parts of yourself that were previously experienced as too frightening and overwhelming to face alone. When emotions are seen, known and held by another, it becomes possible to understand and be with them in a new way. By working through and transforming emotional pain into something meaningful, you can reconnect with your own sense of authenticity and aliveness. This renewed connection with yourself is what will ultimately allow you to heal from the wounding experiences of your past in order to move forward with your life.

The process of reclaiming this life as your own may take courage and hard work, but in my experience, it's only difficult because it's worth it.

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If you'd like to know more about my practice, I encourage you to reach out to me by phone, text, or email. I'm available at 415.841.3338 or You may also fill out the form below, and I will respond as soon as I'm able.

I offer a 20-minute phone consultation that is free of charge. This is an opportunity to talk about the things you're struggling with and how I can help.

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For all of us have a basic intuitive feeling that once we were whole and well – at ease, at peace, at home in the world; totally united with the ground of our being – and that we lost this primal, happy, innocent state and fell into our present sickness and suffering. We had something of infinite beauty and preciousness and we lost it. We spend our lives searching for what we have lost  – and one day, perhaps, we will suddenly find it.

Oliver Sacks

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